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This sounds like it is months in advance so people like the dj and photographer have plenty of time to find a new gig. But then again, most guests are responsible for getting to the wedding without assistance. It's the "don't post to FB" episode. jar of homemade jelly to share., And this was after 4 Christmases of nothing being sent for me and my daughter., When we visited his dad/stepmom in Alaska no small trip dragging ourselves all the way up there to meet them! The father revealed that their family had an agreement that the parents would give their children each $10K to be spent on the wedding or a down payment on their first home. They are adults, two grown @ss adults DO NOT need and should NEVER EVER ask a young adult to pay for their wedding costs, not even the shower. Not the A-hole I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. As if her refusing to come is going to make you so sad that you will change your mind? Finding the time to spend with all the people in your life that matter to you can be challenging. So she doesn't come. Our daughter is usually very considerate of others feelings and opinions and is a generally nice person. And you have free meal and free booze! Check your inbox, and click on the link to activate your account. Concerns were raised about the relationship. (Closed), Hey Pandas, Share A Unique Way You Display Your Books (Closed), Here Are My 31 Heartfelt Illustrations To Brighten Up Your Day (New Pics). Image credits: Ryan Polei (not the actual image). I should also mention that they have been unemployed by choice for the last 13 months since they moved and have not looked for a job. "However, if fianc dumps Rachel, uninvites her to wedding, or demotes her from groomswoman, she will ratchet it up and do who knows what.". Read this._3K2ydhts9_ES4s9UpcXqBi{display:block;padding:0 16px;width:100%} I can't talk about my 'lifestyle' because she doesn't want to . I would not marry a man who is, in effect, telling his sons that your sons are not family. Where I'm from, people usually give away money as wedding presents, therefore, I've let her know that I'd not be taking any of the presents her extra guests would be giving us. I don't think it has to be said but to be clear I completely understand that this was unforseen and a very stressful time for the both of them. She should support your big day by paying for a ticket, or kindly say she cannot attend due to finances. The author of the post shared that he and his wife have 3 grown-up children. My father is getting remarried, hes almost 58 years old. "Also likely spread many rumors. literally whenever I would start talking both of them would start scrolling on their phones., Im not even kidding. ._3bX7W3J0lU78fp7cayvNxx{max-width:208px;text-align:center} First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for sharing their valuable point of view, it's truly appreciated! They now own 3 homes as they just purchased a second rental property. By law the deposit is only allowed to be kept, if the venue, DJ, photographer, or other was not able to rebook on that date. Her interests also include photography, literature and hiking. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. "AITA for uninviting my family from my wedding because they want me to share it with my sister?" The OP is currently trying to plan her wedding around the pandemic. And no, not because the couple broke up, but because they decided mid-way not to go with the whole celebration scenario, the reason being that they cant handle the stress. If you really want her there, then pay, otherwise she can stay at home. They are still not looking for jobs and they are having an extravagant wedding and wanting everyone else to pay for everything including asking for money in lieu of wedding gifts. This was the difficulty Redditor and Original Poster LadyDreaLee ran into recently, so she took to the Am I the A**hole subreddit for the guidance she needed. Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction.. I see a lot of people are asking a few questions multiple times, so to answer those: No one offered to chip in for the wedding, not from my side and neither from hers. I might be the asshole for not considering her feelings on the matter. as long as you are both perfectly okay with her not coming, NTA. Posted on May 11, 2022 This Woman Is Going To Call Off Her Wedding Unless Her Fianc Disinvites His Female Best. Weddings are boring, if you want people to enjoy them they should have someone to enjoy it with. That being said, on the flipside, if people have to travel then there should also be zero expectation of them coming. This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. She has been with her fiance for 10 years, and they are . They never asked about me or my daughter or showed any curiosity., My ex never stood up for me, always got mad at me for feeling hurt or even saying anything to him in private about any of it., Always defended everyone else but me with all these convoluted explanations/rationalizations., In contrast, my parents called his daughter their second granddaughter, everyone else in my family fully embraced ex and his daughter, my parents sent equal/matching gifts to both girls, as well as gifts for my ex, starting our very first Christmas together., The contrast was stark and obvious, and I only mention it because when people are loving and accepting, they behave that way., Its not rocket science or some complicated puzzle you have to keep trying to solve; it just comes easily and naturally. Look at the OP's reply to one of the first comments. This is true You have to demand the deposit back from whom you payed it to. This is a huge red flag and your fiance is not making a good decision here.~Top-Ad-2676, This is spot on. They want me to use my savings that I have carefully planned out to pay for my college so that I can graduate without debt to pay for the bridal shower and wedding transportation. I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. My fiance ( 23M) and I (23 F) are getting married in less than a month. We're asking people to rethink comments that seem similar to others that have been reported or downvoted, By using our services you agree to our use of cookies to improve your visit. We also have so little in common. They asked me to have the bridal shower at my home since most of the guests live close to here and they now live in another state. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. AITA for paying for my son's wedding? "She was shocked to hear me say . By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Skip to GTV: 10:00. NTA. Or not. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Because my sister might not be coming to my wedding as a result of me refusing to pay for her ticket. We put this canyon fee on our invitations. I'm very happy that he has recovered and do want them to have the wedding they dreamed of because they do deserve it. So I reckon they will compromise. I'm a photo editor. My 2-year-old son can't attend, either. We decided we wanted to have our wedding up in a canyon, but to access this canyon it costs $10 So we're having our guests Pay the $10 to enter the canyon. @keyframes ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5{0%{transform:rotate(0deg)}to{transform:rotate(1turn)}}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq{--sizePx:0;font-size:4px;position:relative;text-indent:-9999em;border-radius:50%;border:4px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyTextAlpha20);border-left-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);transform:translateZ(0);animation:ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5 1.1s linear infinite}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq,._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{width:var(--sizePx);height:var(--sizePx)}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{border-radius:50%}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq._2qr28EeyPvBWAsPKl-KuWN{margin:0 auto} Press J to jump to the feed. I am going to school and recently became unemployed so Im living off of my savings account. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. I have attended numerous wedding, sometimes far away, I always paid for it. Please enter your email to complete registration. That mean everything had to be canceled- most of which wasn't refundable. NTA. Theres the spouse, kids, friends, parents. Please listen to the people here who have experienced this. I Crochet Miniature Animals, Birds And Other Creatures (30 Pics), Here Is A Collection Of 57 Mind-Boggling 3D Illusion Art Pieces By Kurt Wenner, 50 Times Signs Were So Funny, People Had To Share Them On This Facebook Page, 23 Y.O. This has been on my head for the past while so I wanted to know am I the asshole. We went to two out of state weddings in less than 6 months. Everything wouldve gone according to plan, but in the middle of the whole wedding planning, the woman decided that she didnt want to go with the whole big celebration thing and decided that she wanted to get married in a courthouse and have a 2-3 month long honeymoon that she and her husband would spend traveling around the world. Anyhoo)., NTA OP. Hey! I initially tried to talk to my Dad to explain that 1) these people were never planned on as part of the very limited guest count 2) My future husband's family is spending a fortune to travel from Brazil to the US to meet my family and that having a wedding full of my Dad's friends and their plus 5's will majorly distract from this 3) There are very close friends of mine that I can't invite because the venue only fits 75-80 people. AITA for not paying for my daughter's wedding after it was postponed? Their wedding was supposed to be two weeks ago but two days prior he suffered a health setback and which resulted in him going to hospital and the wedding having to be postponed. If I was in his shoes, I would've put those $5k in a bank account, with the caveat, that they can use them for a house or rent. Some of the rules were "Women wear pale yellow dresses & men wear black suits" "Only seafood and vegan food" "No camera/recording" "No children below the age of 12" I know these . My daughter and I were given a 6 oz. I have a feeling that the parents would do exactly that cos they seem like good decent people. 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Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. I have regretfully declined weddings I couldn't afford to attend. Of course, when we go out and have romantic dinners (about once a week) I cover the cost, and we usually give each other gifts every month or so, but those are extras. and sh*t all over me and my daughter, making us feel very unwanted., Hes an ex for many reasons but that was a big one. We respect your privacy. They've only got themselves to blame. Your account is not active. ._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa{margin-top:8px}._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa ._3EpRuHW1VpLFcj-lugsvP_{color:inherit}._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa svg._31U86fGhtxsxdGmOUf3KOM{color:inherit;fill:inherit;padding-right:8px}._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa ._2mk9m3mkUAeEGtGQLNCVsJ{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;color:inherit} Dont forget to share your insights in the comments section! Frank Geier (pronouns he/him) is a nerd and father of three who recently moved to Alabama. My dream is to get an RV and travel around the world with my dog. ago NTA. For context, OP is getting married soon. I always say have your wedding wherever you want, but dont expect everyone to travel far to attend. NTA. NAH, unless of course you try to guilt trip her, then you would be the AH. The parents decided to help out their daughter by giving her $10K for her dream wedding that she already spent half of while planning her big day celebration. Her fiance has since completely recovered and she contacted me regarding a new date in January and sorting out the details around that. If they do rebook, they are required to return the deposit. Finance wise, I've let her know that I would not be willing to pay the 67% of the wedding costs for the guests that are coming from her parents side or for the relatives with which she hasn't spoken in years. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Therefore, given that now I'm earning twice what she does, the numbers are calculated based on the following: 2X + 1X = 3X; X/3X = 0. My daughter and her fiance got engaged last year and my wife and I promised to pay for all the wedding expenses which were rather costly. They can't expect the people back home to cover all those expenses after they chose to move away. I had to set a boundary with them and let them know I can pay for 2 of the 3 things they are requesting - either the shower, the transportation to the wedding or rent. You are free. 787 top end rebuild; can you. The couple plans to quit their jobs and apartment, move in with the in-laws, travel around for 3 months, then live free wit the in-laws again and maybe get their jobs back. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Maid of honor calls out bride over her 'ridiculous' wedding rules: 'My fiance is not invited'. 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A couple of hours later, the author got a call from her husband revealing that he found a text from his manager stating that he was fired. After you are married, your MIL will treat your kids differently because they arent her biological grandkids., Things like birthdays and Christmas will become nightmares., I am not talking about paying for education or other more extravagant gifts, just the everyday living experiences., I am not saying you expect any of this, it is just what will probably happen. Both perfectly okay with her fiance for 10 years, and click on the,! Weddings i could n't afford to attend Fianc Disinvites his Female Best not coming,.! The post shared that he and his wife have 3 grown-up children since completely recovered and do want them have. Second rental property three who recently moved to Alabama similar technologies to provide with! Are boring, if people have to demand the deposit dj and photographer have plenty time... 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